Wise Sayings To Help You Move Past Infidelity

Published August 10th, 2008

by Alex Archer

Years have passed, but some sayings have remained. Despite changes in society and culture, these adages can still ring true in our lives. Six old and wise sayings should come to mind when you think about moving past infidelity in your relationship.

Can’t see the forest for the trees. Let’s begin with this one because it’s what we experience when we discover the infidelity. We put blinders on and that’s all we can see - WHAT was done to hurt us, not when or who or where or most importantly why, just what. We have to look at the big picture and look at what surrounds the situation, not just the event itself.

Experience is the best way to learn. Once you learn to focus on the forest rather than the tree, take time to grow from the experience. It is easy to play make believe as a child or young person, but you will never understand the feelings, emotions, and passions inside of you until you experience them. Decide with your partner that this is a one-time thing and work to put it in your past so you can move into your continued future together.

A penny for your contemplations. The key to every great relationship according to almost everyone is communication. Communication is typically difficult but even more so when you have to tell the person you love something that will bring them pain. If you try to hold it in or keep it to yourself, you will only explode with it later. Think out how you want to say what needs to be said and then find a quiet moment to share your thoughts with your partner.

It’s not you, it’s me. Here’s a cliche that does NOT belong on the list of how to survive infidelity. It’s mentioned here to make sure you DON’T use it. Because it will come up. It always does. It’s not just one or the other - it’s both. Even if you are the one cheated on, your behavior may need some tweaking. Although it’s easy to do and a natural feeling, don’t necessarily put all the blame on the guilty party. Share the experience, share the guilt and share the rewards of the future.

It may be simple, but it is not easy. Planning a wedding is simple. Make some phone calls, send some invitations, and have a ceremony. The marriage that follows will prove to you just how simple that ceremony was. A marriage is a full-time job where you never get a vacation. You must constantly work to make your relationship thrive. Learn early how to communicate, how to bend without breaking, and how to forgive if you want your marriage to succeed.

Time heals all wounds. This one’s saved for last. It’s probably the oldest cliche there is and it’s the truest one of the bunch. It goes back to the first cliche in our list because once we get past the initial situation, resolve and forgive, then it’s just a matter of time. Of moving on to bigger and better things. To let this pass and to grow.

These cliches pertain to more than just surviving infidelity. They are the secrets to a happy marriage. Infidelity is an issue that probably goes back as far as the caveman (who has the biggest club ??) Hope this helps. Hope these show some insight to how to survive infidelity.

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